heeeeeelp please!!! (sex / libido)

[Espio]

Okay i'm so freaked out and i need help bad!! I'm 25 years old and have abstained from having sex my whole life for fear of STD's, but after I read the IH daily topic on how viruses are very hard to get if you have a healthy immune system (which I do, i only get sick once a year or so), I decided to start having protected sex.

So I went out and got a girl and I tried to have sex with her, and I'm hard for a while but when I try to go inside her I retract like a shy turtle who is afraid to go in the water!!! So I try and get it hard again but it won't get hard enough to penetrate!!

Could this be because of high cholesterol or blood sugar preventing blood flow or something? Or maybe from over-masturbation which has desensitized me to real women? or maybe I'm just nervous about my performance?

Is there any supplements I can take?

Thanks!

[Espio]

Sorry if this post is too much information for this board, I won't be offended if it's deleted! lol

[Gibson]

There's nothing physically wrong with you. You just have "stage fright." Start with a girl you are comfortable with (girlfriend). Don't stress.

[LA-Night]

Okay i'm so freaked out and i need help bad!! I'm 25 years old and have abstained from having sex my whole life for fear of STD's, but after I read the IH daily topic on how viruses are very hard to get if you have a healthy immune system (which I do, i only get sick once a year or so), I decided to start having protected sex.

So I went out and got a girl and I tried to have sex with her, and I'm hard for a while but when I try to go inside her I retract like a shy turtle who is afraid to go in the water!!! So I try and get it hard again but it won't get hard enough to penetrate!!

Could this be because of high cholesterol or blood sugar preventing blood flow or something? Or maybe from over-masturbation which has desensitized me to real women? or maybe I'm just nervous about my performance?

Is there any supplements I can take?

Thanks!

Check out the ED articles on the main IH site; there's lots of good info. But at our age (I'm 24) the problem probably isn't physical.

So before you focus on the physical, focus on your inner mind set.

Not to sound like some weird Dr. Phil guy but, sometimes, we try to control so much -- our health, our hair loss, our sex life -- that it backfires & causes stress.

My advice? Relax, man. What's happening to you is normal. Could just be performance anxiety.

[scottyc33]

Okay i'm so freaked out and i need help bad!! I'm 25 years old and have abstained from having sex my whole life for fear of STD's, but after I read the IH daily topic on how viruses are very hard to get if you have a healthy immune system (which I do, i only get sick once a year or so), I decided to start having protected sex.

So I went out and got a girl and I tried to have sex with her, and I'm hard for a while but when I try to go inside her I retract like a shy turtle who is afraid to go in the water!!! So I try and get it hard again but it won't get hard enough to penetrate!!

Could this be because of high cholesterol or blood sugar preventing blood flow or something? Or maybe from over-masturbation which has desensitized me to real women? or maybe I'm just nervous about my performance?

Is there any supplements I can take?

Thanks!

Ive had the same problem in the past.

Condoms will do that to you.

So will PA (performance anxiety).

Also if the girl doesnt get very wet then that can make matters worse.

Try some astroglide if thats the case.

Or some good ole fashion spit always works.

As far as supplements go, you can try some arginine to increase NO.

There are plenty of "male-enhancement" supplements out there.

You are probably 100% fine physically - but maybe taking something to 'enhance' things will help you get over your PA and then you can ween yourself off.

My gf is 10 years younger than I am, so I pop some arginine and/or alpha-yohimbine once in awhile if I feel I need a "boost".

[lund]

Performance anxiety - you need to be comfortable. Anxiety kills...

may be you have just primed the pump, few more times and you will be rocking like a chimp monk....

Ah those 1st moments.....

[CausticSymmetry]

Espio - This is a very relevant topic to this site I think.

When I was between 24 and 25 I remember having some trouble. At the time I was drink so many vegetable juices, my bladder was working over time and I unfortunately bought into vegetarian propaganda that meat was "evil." My amino acid intake was low as a result and that sapped my strength. I also had adrenal fatigue despite eating what I thought was a perfect diet. I would become dizzy from a lay down position (classic symptoms of AF).

Irregardless of diet, like the others were saying, performance anxiety plays a huge role, but having less than optimal blood flow to the right areas will just make "PA" much worse.

You an fight off PA with some physical help, such as with this supplement:

http://www.iherb.com/MRM-Natural-V-90-Capsules/4644?at=0

The primary power in this pill are Cnidium Monnier (12:1 Extract) and
Xanthoparmelia Scabrosa. These are phosphodiesterase type 5 inhibitors and they will give you boost of confidence
in all departments. I would add Acetyl L-Carnitine if you're not already taking it (4-grams in a day), check out the "Daily topic" on the reason for that.

Other than that, yeah those bloody condoms only add to the tension so a good rock solid physical lift from some of these supplements will help get around that obstacle too.

[hadrion]

I had a bout of this too when I was 24-25 and it also coincided with me turning vegetarian for the girl who this happened with. She was a Vegan model and she basically told me if I wanted to be with her and have a physical relationship with her I had to be meat free.

When we first started having sex I had a lot of problems keeping it up with a condom on. I freaked out about it and went to see a doctor and told her (yes, it was female Dr.) about what was going on and she told me to calm down and that I looked frantic.

I think some of it was the diet change and a lot of it was performance anxiety as this was a ridiculously beautiful girl I was with and I had my own issues with that.

In the end, it worked itself out. We never had problems without condoms and eventually I was able to function with one once I slowed my brain down and stopped having negative thoughts and just enjoyed the moment.

As for now, IH's regimen pretty much ensures no problems downstairs for me.

I do remember when I was using Arginine Pyroglutamate I was having ridiculous erections though but I didn't need to use that daily as it caused acne on my forehead.

My advice to you is to slow things down and breathe and enjoy the moment. Get lost in it and learn to block all that negative shit out of your head. It's a waste of time listening to it.

[hapyman]

If you are having some anxiety try some L-Theanine (sometimes sold as Suntheanine). In another thread it has helped another member perform longer in bed. Would need to be taken proactively an hour or more before the moment probably.

[lund]

That's for prolonging the act (if that's what you need) -I think OP's issue is erection (quality and duration). 2 different issues perhaps...

If you are having some anxiety try some L-Theanine (sometimes sold as Suntheanine). In another thread it has helped another member perform longer in bed. Would need to be taken proactively an hour or more before the moment probably.

[cuebreeze]

Were you on finasteride at any point?

I was on it for 4 years until i found this site. Ive only been off it for about 3 months now and only started the IH6 a few weeks ago but allready things have improved slightly. I get random erections which tells me im on my way to getting better.

Before fin i was get about 7 erections a day (when i was 17). On fin i rarely got any.

So off fin for 3 months and on ih6 for 3 weeks and im getting the morning glory about 3 days a week. Its not much but its alot better and getting better.

I also had alot of fear of it happenening. Im far from a womenizer but sex is healthy. Try picking up some women you'll never see again (aslong as they are disease free). This mite help with any worries.

[Espio]

Thanks everyone for the replies! I will try some of these recommendations for sure. CS I am ordering that MRM naturval V stuff as I write this, thank you. I definitely think I have adrenal fatigue because I have a very fluctuating temperature, from 98.0 to 96.5 depending on the day. I also have the sunken eyes with dark circles, and the light headedness after standing. I also can never gain weight no matter how much I eat.

Were you on finasteride at any point?
I also had alot of fear of it happenening. Im far from a womenizer but sex is healthy. Try picking up some women you'll never see again (aslong as they are disease free). This mite help with any worries.

Cuebreeze-no i was never on FN. I think you're right about the women that I'd never see again, I definitely felt more relaxed with previous women when I didn't care about them and my performance.

Thanks everyone!

[lund]

your sample size is "1" - before reaching conclusions, you need to have tried and failed numerous times (10-12) to establish a physiological reason.

[scottyc33]

I have tried a product called Rhino51 which has worked really well for me.

There are two versions - both work very, very well and last for a couple of days. It is pretty strong - I have actually taken the caps and split the doses in half because a full dose is TOO strong (ie I wind up getting random wood during the day at work that I cant get rid of!).

Here are the ingredients in each version:

RHINO-51 Timbuktu
SUPPLEMENT FACT: Proprietary Blend Serving Size: 1 Capsule - 633mg* Caulis Cynomorii Ginseng Tortoise Plastron Sea Horse Penis Ettestis Cervi Yak Testis Wolfberry Fruit Velvet Cynamorium

RHINO-51 NITRO
Ingredients include: Bombyx Mori Ext.,Ginger Root Ext.,Corynathe,Yohimbe,Horney Goat Weed,Epimedium Ext.,Cordyceps Ext.,Schizandra Berry,Rehmannia Root,Vitamin B3,Niacin,Korean Ginseng,Wolfberry Ext


I googled the ingredients in "timbuktu" and found the same exact ingredient list for a Chinese product. I am guessing that the Rhino folks import the pills from China and turn around and sell them under the "Rhino" moniker.

The Timbuktu stuff comes in tablets. I've taken a pill cutter and cut those into 1/4s - even at 1/4 dose the stuff still works pretty well for me.

CS - are you familiar with any of these ingredients?

[CausticSymmetry]

scottyc33 - I'm familiar with most of the ingredients but know next to nothing about these right here:

Caulis Cynomorii, Tortoise Plastron Sea Horse Penis Ettestis Cervi Yak Testis